Fulfillment as Investment: FinDom's Secret Psychological ROI

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Having been a Goddess-Worship oriented Findomme for over 10 years, I have experienced a deep intimacy with the psycho-sexual workings of Financial Domination, and I find it to be a deep and telling litmus test for subs, and men in general.

Born out of an early 2010s wave of Feminist praxis and radical thought as well as movements for the rights of sex workers ("Give Your Money To Women" was a specific movement started on Twitter around this time), FinDom was seeded at the crossroads of the Adult Industry’s massive expansion and flourishing clip accessibility (and normalization) and the Feminist Sphere’s focus on empowering Women by naming and claiming all the ways men benefit from Our labor— and demanding that value back.

Findom subs were more than happy to comply.

From the outside, Financial Domination seems a bit of an absurd fetish: pleasure is derived from giving a Woman money and getting what seems like ‘nothing’ in return. ‘Seems like’ because in a time where adult content is more available than ever, handing over a chunk of one’s paycheck to a Woman that’s not going to show you T&A or anything more explicit seems like throwing money away…but that mindset is hating outside from the club.

FinDom is polarizing: those who can, do, and those who cannot, complain. It’s a classic sour grapes situation. But for those who haven’t yet crossed the threshold into Financial Domination, or for those who’ve dipped their toes in but aren’t quite sure what’s in the water, it must be understood that FinDom only seems to be about money. In reality it is the essence of a man’s sexuality, and a Domme’s power.

It is the same dance that has been going on in humanity for thousands of years, distilled. And as many of you know, distilling makes things clearer, stronger, and much more enjoyable.

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So let’s ask the obvious question: How does anyone get off to throwing money at a Domme?

The answer is alignment.

Men are wired for creative purpose. Women are wired for creative enjoyment. This polarity explains the interplay between the Masculine and Feminine, and bids humanity to engage in an amusing arrangement: Men are instinctively driven towards purpose, but that purpose isn’t fulfilled unless they offer some proof of that purpose’s success to Women.

Modern society has strayed from this due to Patriarchy, leaving a majority of men frustrated and stranded. Economic markets that once claimed that they could by themselves give meaning and purpose to men as breadwinners have failed to do so, leaving many men without the meaningful, profitable vocations they were promised by the system. Thus there is much gnashing of teeth at the men and Women that can still participate in this age old game: when men share their money, their fruit, their wealth with Women, their fulfillment increases a hundred fold. This is why wealthy men rush to gain access to the Feminine— beauties, lovers, arm candy, princesses, companions. Not only is this deeply satisfying, as they have reached a level of success in their actualization that few can reach, but  generosity towards the Feminine has a way of multiplying their fortunes; it is said men who are generous with Women do better in business dealings.

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In the end, the idea that Financial Domination is ‘throwing money at Women for nothing in return’ couldn’t be further from the truth. In reality, the compulsion to do so is evidence of one of Masculinity’s most ancient features— providership and adoration of Women. After centuries of invisible labor, misogyny and energetic imbalances, giving money to Women without transaction isn’t for ‘nothing’— it’s a reestablishment of an ancient exchange, one that reconnects men with the truest source of their own pleasure: A Woman’s Satisfaction.

For submissive men, doing all of this has a deeper edge as well; if money is power, and the order of the day is a destruction of Patriarchy, then electing to diminish one’s power by submitting it to a Dominant Woman is the ultimate form of surrender.

Men understand very well what it means to say that ‘money talks’ and ‘put your money where your mouth is’. In that vein, submission that stops short of material surrender is nothing but a schoolyard fantasy. Many men make believe that they are worth knowing, and devoted subs. But only the elect among them can prove they are.

Grown men don’t just fantasize. They act.

Ta-ta,

--THE Godwitch, Elixa Starlight

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